Father convicted for smacking his child: Child Abuse in Society: Parental Rights: Some blame violence on excessive wealth, excessive leisure time, insufficient counselling services, and governmental neglect. And while everyone openly or secretly blames parents for the violent nature of their children, every day secular society does it's best to deny parents the right to control or punish their children.
Corporal Punishment - What's Wrong with the World?
Half of the article was devoted to violence within the Muslim World and half looked at violence in the Western world. I want to republish the second half of that article here at KingsCalendar and then draw your attention to some recent news from the U.S.A and New Zealand.
....That is not to say that violence no longer exists in Christendom. It is just that today, violence is perpetrated in the name of 'who knows what?' According to one of the reports above, 'third world' mentality and poverty (perhaps the same thing) are the true reasons behind violence. But if that were so one would hardly expect to see violence in Wealthy Westerners. Violence however is quite apparent.
Some blame violence on excessive wealth, excessive leisure time, insufficient counselling services, and governmental neglect. And while everyone openly or secretly blames parents for the violent nature of their children, every day secular society does it's best to deny parents the right to control or punish their children.
Not even the courts are willing to punish children.
The Brisbane District Court heard Allan Hokit Cheung, 19, of Runcorn, in Brisbane's outer southeast, manufactured homemade chlorine bombs and then threw them at the family homes of two teenagers during an early morning act of revenge.
"It was not a prank, it was an act of terror on innocent people for some perceived slight and the only thing stopping you going to jail is your age," Judge Shanahan said.
Speaking outside court an emotional Pam Hall, who sold her Sunnybank Hills home following the attack and moved her family to Western Australia, said the sentence was a "joke".
The baby-faced felons might be only 10 to 14 years old but they are committing shocking crimes and at similar rates as adults - at schools, on public or private transport and in the home - the latest police Annual Statistical Review has revealed.
The revelations come as two boys aged 11 and 16 faced Southport Children's Court yesterday for allegedly bashing an off-duty police officer and his girlfriend at Coolangatta.
Violence today is rampant in societies who very 'day-to-day' social conditioning promotes it. It matters not whether it be religion, Hollywood, or my insistence upon 'my rights', today we have people growing up with hearts empty of love, and full of contempt for authority, morality and the communities in which they live.
I find it strange that in an era in which corporal punishment has been banned because of it's apparent 'causal effect' in the perpetration of violence, that violence of a horrendous nature is being made more manifest on a daily basis, within the hearts of those who were 'spared' the rod which causes little hearts to become violent.
And who now could suggest that a return to corporal discipline is appropriate, when those very people unto whom such a right would be granted, are the very first rebellious and undisciplined generation to appear. Heaven forbid that they be entrusted with such a right.
'Softly Softly' is not the way to stem the tide of angst against the west, nor the method to protect our societies from the murderous intent of the Islamic world, and nor is the way to deal with youngsters who have learned the easy way, that as long as they are minors, they can get away with murder.
Many years ago when I was a policeman, I talked with one of our neighbourhood little terrors (although by today's standards he was as innocent as a lamb). He told me that once he turned 18 years old, he would change his behaviour.
Unfortunately, he never made it to his 18th birthday.
What's Wrong with Us?
Why is it that in our so-called enlightened age; our age of dependence upon experts; an age of massive government funding, educational programs and psychological counselling and resources that we have so many young people exhibiting so many dangerous and deviant behaviours.
Three boys, ages eight and nine, are in custody in the United States, charged with kidnapping and raping an 11-year-old girl
"..the girl was forced into a wooded area where she was sexually assaulted, where one of the boys raped her," Acworth police Captain Wayne Dennard said.
Their names were withheld because of their age.
District Attorney Pat Head said the boys could not be charged with felony crimes because of their age but could be tried for alleged delinquent acts that could place them in a juvenile facility for up to five years.
These wonderful little 'johnnies', (if the full extent of the law is enforced) will spend their formative years behind bars - so to speak. Notice that little word 'formative'.
Children are the product of their environments and environment today goes well beyond the front door of the family home. It includes school and TV. It not only includes Movies and violent video games, but includes every image on Television that has the potential to stimulate the developing mind of a young child.
Well of course no matter the source, we can always blame the parents, the schools or the government. But what of all those calls for parents to be held responsible for the actions of their children? How is a decent parent meant to teach and guide a child who is on all sides being taught to throw off the archaic attitudes and authoritarian dictates of their parents?
What hope do parents have?
The process of childhood education begins in the home when the child is beginning to become conscious of the world around him. The enlightened elite, whose every utterance we take as gospel, tell us that we must 'reason' with children. How do you reason with someone who does not understand your language. How do you reason with a foreigner newly arrived in your country, who does not speak the language or understand the customs?
And what would a foreigner later say, when he has suffered the consequences of his wrong doing, as explanation for that wrong doing? "No one made me understand. They may have told me, they may have warned me, they may have spelled it out very clearly in English - but I had no point of reference; no ability to understand at all, let alone understand the seriousness of what I was doing. I was innocently ignorant!"
How much more so can children claim the same, and later as adults do so? Retrospect is a wonderful instructor. Retrospect says: 'Why didn't you stop me? Why didn't you make me understand? Why didn't you restrain me?"
And herein lies the problem. How can we in our enlightened liberal world, restrain or prevent children from doing wrong? Lock them in their rooms? Illegal! Hit them? Illegal!
A NEW Zealand father has been convicted of assault for smacking his eight-year-old son on the bottom in what is believed to be the first case under a controversial new law.
Opponents of the law said the conviction of the man, who was sentenced to nine months supervision including undergoing anger management, showed the law was "parents' worst nightmare".
The court was told the boy received a bruised shoulder when his father roughly grabbed him before smacking his bottom three times with his open hand after he had misbehaved at school.
The boy's mother took a photograph of the bruise and showed it to a relative, who later reported it to police.
How dare he smack his child. That is assault! (But only because we made it so!)
But maybe the father could have done something else? Maybe! But what of those parents whose non corporal punishment disciplinary measures repeatedly fail? Oh we can just send them to our new fangled course on how to fix the problem. Very bright these people, but even Doctor Spock eventually realised that he was not God. His ways were so great that his own son suicided! (Dr. Spock's - not God's!)(Urban Legend - It was his grandson)
But note also in that report that it was the mother who got the ball rolling. If I were the man I would ditch both Mother and Child. The mother because she is a $&^%$# and the son because he will not only pay no further attention to the father, but he too will become a $#%^&.
On Wednesday Ricky's father, Alan Bennetts, escorted his son into the school grounds, hoping to protect the 11-year-old from a gang that battered him in an after-school ambush on Friday last week.
"I pointed at him, I said right, this bullying stuff, it's got to stop. If you want to do any more of that stuff, you get your aunty and uncle and come and knock on my front door?" Mr Bennetts said.
minutes later was confronted by the school principal, who questioned him about speaking to the second student.
A furious Mr Bennetts said that after he accused the principal of inaction and weakness, he was promptly banned from the school for 30 days.
That 11 year old boy had started taking a pocket knife to school for protection. His father, rather than doing what so many parents would do - encourage him to use it - took action to protect his son. And he was punished for it. Why? Because the elitist and enlightened ignoramuses of this world who call themselves educators, understand nothing about life and could care less as long as the problem does not affect them personally.
And what of the parents of the bullies? I guess if they do anything at all, it will be to reason with their child.
Frankly, given the choice between smacking my kid and seeing him grow up in a detention center, I personally took the former option. But what would I know?
Today, my kids blame me for everything wrong in their lives. Funny how much they loved me when I exercised disciplinary authority in their lives, and how little they listen to me now. Then again, as a divorced father, I didn't have the right to discipline them or tell them anything.
When I did have influence, I insisted that they take responsibility for their actions. Today, they are to blame for nothing. It's always someone else's fault!
Yeah! It looks like I've talked my way around to demonstrating the error of corporal punishment. I look back now and see how wrong I was. I should have just followed my own advice to the New Zealand Dad and turned my back on my kids while they were still young. Oh I forget myself. When parents divorce that is what fathers do isn't it? Everything from then on in is the father's fault!
See! Now I've justified my own statement. Fathers should not discipline their kids; they should just walk away from them forever and spare themselves the trouble. Let the little darlings grow up blaming him and everyone else for their own mistakes, and should they end up dead or in detention for their erroneous ways - well! It was the father's fault anyway!
Real love is saying to the world - Screw you! I care more about my kids than your so-called enlightenment! I will teach my kids right from wrong no matter what the cost to me! That is all you can do! And if others step in to make you out to be the baddie, all you can do is wait 30 or 40 years until the kids have matured enough to understand that 'love does not falter or fail', and nor does it let you do and say what you want so that you will love me.
Love also says: 'Go your own way if you must; just leave me out of it! You are now responsible for your own life! - You are an adult now and that means that you can do what you want, say what you want and think what you want! - and so can I!'
There is no doubt that there are abusive people in the world and that corporal punishment justifies the abuse of some kids. But does making corporal punishment illegal justify all the wrecked lives that could have been spared, if only at a young age the children had learned that discipline is not just about control, it is about the pure desire of the parental heart to spare them from future harm.
Ah well! My kids are all grown up now! It's not my problem! I could care less if someone else's kid ends up dead or in detention! It's the parents fault anyway! And the government! If there is a real problem then the answer lies in more laws and more government funded committees and programs.
Besides, research shows that in the last 40 years, violent crime and sexual crimes have significantly decreased. Divorce is declining. Educational standards and achievements are rising. The suicide rate amongst young people has fallen to almost nothing! Surveys now show that young people are the happiest and most well adjusted since people started taking surveys. Kids now have better relationships with their parents than my generation did, and kids these days repond well to 'dialogue'.
So all is right with the world.
Thank God! For a while there I had begun to believe
that the world was falling into chaos!
Footnote on Dr. Spock Dr. Spock's 22 year old grandson Peter took his own life on December 25 1983 by jumping from the roof of Boston's Children's Museum where his father Michael was Director. (Read Here.)
Re: Fort Hood Massacre I invite readers to think about the educators of our "politically correct" or non-judgmental media, because the core of the problem consists not in cowardly or obfuscating journalists but rather the universities that educated them.
We boast of these universities, even though they produce so many moral idiots. I mean men and women stultified by the academic doctrine of moral or cultural relativism. Because it is this doctrine that prompts "politically correct" fools to hire Muslims to serve on US military bases.
The social engineering of society, to accommodate 'ideological agendas' which sound so great, usually fall victim to 'The Law of Unintended Consequences'.
But when the 'rights' of ideologues, social engineers and political activists start impinging on our personal and traditional identity; which is to say, 'our national culture', then it is time to sit back and say 'enough!
We really do need to pay more attention to how our own minds operate, and how we are both consciously and subconsciously effected by Media Propaganda.
It's very easy to 'take sides' in an issue, and it is very easy to be persuaded of a cause, but at the end of the day, unless it is our specific purpose to blind ourselves to the truth, it is encumbent upon us to do our best to look at every situation from as many persepectives as possible...to make sure that we are not 'obsessive and compulsive' in our political and social judgements.
Is it possible that we and our kids are living in a state of 'stupor', controlled by external forces that seek to mould us to their wills? Does the media and do the Universities engineer what we think? Do they try to cast a spell over our minds and our thoughts?
Humankind (I'm afraid to write 'mankind') loves and admires charasmatic speakers and leaders, and naturally we expect students to 'look up to' their teachers. What happens when those leaders and teachers are not worthy of honour, or are teaching that which is contrary to our own (family/ social/ cultural or traditional) culture?
Political Correctness is ultimately a game where the one who is speaking is free to speak, and anyone who speaks against him/her is in the wrong, unless of course what you are saying, has the support of the majority of the 'socio-political' elites. In truth, Free Speech is a Myth
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good intention ,bad results
Written on 12/19/07 at 00:24:36 AEST by youaremyangel
The whole article really arouse me to think a lot about what we should do with those childen with bad behaviors.
On one hand,they are protected by law because of their age,on the other hand,they obviously have less control on themselves. We can not tolerate them just geting away from punishment for they are too young and parents are at loss on educating their disobedient children.
Now,seeing so many juveniles commit serious crime,I can not help asking myself: "Am I a lucky boy for living in a ,comparatively speaking, close countryside environment?
Because that kind of envionment in a way is cut off from the outside world, so I have less chance to be badly influenced by other people and receive more good moral education from parents.
All that leads me to be now a good boy. Should I feel lucky for that? You probably can not understand what I was saying, but I do feel that it is because I was living in a close countryside environment and received good moral education from my parents that make me a good boy.
Even though my parents are not well-educated, but they know by their moral sense about what is right and what is wrong, so do I.
Now I am in college and have some general sense about law, but believe it or not, I knew nothing about law when I was a child, but still I knew what I could do and what I could not.
Maybe, situation in foreigh countries is quite different from china, because foreign children probably are totally exposed to the outside world when they can not quite well tell right form wrong and they absorb bad ways of dealing with things under the bad influence of other people and society.
Given the law protection to your children,they feel that they can easily get rid of parental control and suffer light punishment for same crime as adults do. Moreover, in western world, human rights, like freedom are given top priority to every people which is deeply-rooted in your children. That means to some extent they can do whatever they want to do.
Certainly,they misunderstand about what is real freedom. Back to the problem you mentioned in the article, I do not think it is right to just simply protect children from heavy punishment for their age, our law must clarifed about what parents could do when frequent reasoning with children end up faiure and parents do not want their children ending up in prison or in detention.
There should be some practicable means to adopt between our current law and normally reasoning with them trying to educate them. Or they will have a very bad cycle going on in which on one side parents can do nothing to help their children with bad conduct because of law protection to children, on the other, children who eventually being put into prison will blame their parents for not infoming or shocking them what would happen to them.
Since there are no longer a living environment that can cut children off outside world like I used to live in, what we can do is find a compromised way to cope with that delemma.
What is in your mind about how to solve that problem?
Siberian Labour Camps sounds good to me! A german boy was sent to Siberia for his bad ways.
A boy in Australia just recently threw a party fo 500 people while his parents were away and caused $20,000 damage.
Really - I think western kids should swap places with Chinese kids for a year of so - but only until they can actually communicate with their new parents - then send them home again.
Might give them an appreciation for what a wonderful life they have in the West. Of course - at the same time - it will probably ruin the characters of the Chinese kids. hahahahha
