Anxiety is defined as a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome. It’s future thinking in a negative way. While it’s normal to have concerns from time to time, chronic anxiety leads to loss of appetite, insomnia, compromised immunity and other diseases.
In Western society the romantic ideal posits that everybody wants and seeks love. While I would agree that most people think that way, it is by no means the truth. The experiences of childhood and adolescence may cause love to be more of a threat than a wish. Love can mean many things both good and bad. When a child feels cherished and protected, the young individual longs for a continuation of those feelings through the end of life. Love begets love. The child who flourishes in the warm cocoon of a loving family becomes capable of re-establishing a similar family for himself. But what if our beginnings are not so idyllic? What if the parents are unequal to the task of creating that highly favorable environment? There are an infinite variety of things that can go wrong resulting in trouble ahead.
Bob Strauss is a psychotherapist specializing in couples and relationship therapy and author of “Dancing in the Dark.” He has a Bachelor of Science from Brooklyn College, a master’s degree from Columbia University and a Master of Social Work from Hunter College. Below, he examines how a breakup can lead to lasting relationships.